I was much more uncomfortable today than yesterday. I'm starting to have lower backpain when I'm sitting. I know its from the pressure of the uterus on some nerves, but when it first happened I thought I had done something wrong. I am one of those people who like to sit straight up, I do not slouch. Can't really do that now. I feel like I have a swayback. Its annoying but I have to put up wtih it for now.
Hubby got a real treat yesterday when we were waking up and the baby started doing the rumba. I grabbed hubby's hand and placed it on my belly, almost certain the baby would stop like usual. Heck no... he played hubby's palm like a bongo. Hubby was very impressed. We do not recall our previous two children being this active. This baby has literally spent hours poking, prodding, kicking, shifting and being a whirling dervish. Then he will take a short nap and start up again. I believe he has once again shifted head down again, as the scrape-face-on-pelvic-bone feeling is back. I had about four wonderful days when he was head up and I didn't have that feeling. Its back and I just sit here and moan about it.
I miss being able to climb our stairs without wanting to pass out. I miss not having a congested nose 24/7. I miss walking for more than twenty minutes before being hit with fatigue. I miss feeling strong. I miss thrice weekly sex. I miss my wedding rings.
However, I do enjoy feeling the baby move. I LOVE my hair right now, it doesn't break as easily or fall out as much. I can't get over how great my nails look and how fast they grow back when they break. I enjoy being pampered by hubby. I like it when my teenage son asks me if there is anything he can do for me before he goes up to his room to hide/do homework/watch tv. I enjoy the fact that my daughter is so willing to help me around the house. I like that I am taking better care of myself. I like that Im having a pregnancy with normal weight gain.
I especially enjoy the fact that I do not have any new stretchmarks and due to the fact I've gained less weight than my last pregnancies, my old ones aren't even showing up red or pink. You have to be next to me to see them. I pointed it out to hubby today while I lay in the bath and he agreed. Of course, he probably thought he risked bodily harm if he had said I was wrong. Its true, however, that the stretchmarks are nothing like the last time. Frickin' awesome.
I also still have ankles (!!!) which is a huge deal for big women. My elbows are still defined (something I noticed last week, much to my surprise), as are my upper arms. It appears I'm putting all my weight in my breasts, abdomen/waist (duh),and upper thighs. And somehow, I have managed to keep some definition in my knees. I remember how excited I was when I lost the first fifteen pounds in 2003 and I saw my kneecaps for the first time in 9 years.
Being able to wear my 18/20 jeans at 31 weeks is a big deal for me. My ass is huge as it is and knowing it has stayed the same...well, it alleviates a lot of anxiety. I am doing a lot better than I expected. In fact, a lot better than my entire family thought. I bought those 22/24 slacks to wear to the end of the pregnancy and they are still roomy and very comfortable. They sag in the butt, hip, and thigh areas. Also still have plenty of room in the waist. I have a feeling I will not be moving up another dress size. Victory for me.
I am happy I no longer crave Taco Bell- in fact, I often get sick just thinking about eating it. My soda intake has been cut in half. I no longer eat that basket of chips at the Mexican restaurant we frequent, and I also leave the rice on the plate. I've become extremely aware of portions. Two slices of cheese pizza is too much for me now, I'm down to one and a half. I do not eat the entire box of cinnistix. I actually eat just a true serving of cereal, instead of the three cups to which I became accustomed. I count sugar by the tablespoon. I'm down to one...instead of three in my ice tea. I'm willing now to have small snacks throughout the day. I'm also happy that I have increased my fruit and veggie intake- I eat more of that now than I ever have. I'm developing an aversion to red meat, and it wouldn't bother me one wit if that continued. Loving fish more and chicken is a meat I can also handle each day.
Yes, I've gained weight back that I lost due to this pregnancy. I've also gained the knowledge that I *can* control myself and my environment. If I do not want it in this house, I do not have to buy it. If the kids want it, they can pick it up themselves. I do not have to deal with it. I haven't had a chocolate bar or chocolate anything in 3 months. Simply by not bringing it in the house. I also learned that I do miss being active. I actually found myself daydreaming the other day about walking around the UNL campus with my friends. I miss the jaunts to downtown. Never thought that I would ever miss getting sweaty.
The only thing I would change now is the fatigue and its not going to be gone for quite awhile. Best I can do is keep up with the housework by taking frequent breaks and making sure I take my vitamins and iron. The fatigue is really what drives me crazy the most.
I feel big, not fat. Does that make any sense?